“Only in growth, reform and change, paradoxically, is true security to be found.” Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Here Amy Bloom describes the natural ambivalence that is common when it comes to change and how we can “make room at the table” for it.
“What If You’re Scared of Change?” by: Amy Bloom
“Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.” Dostoyevsky
We’ll wrap up the week with more thoughts from Chris Gardner. Listen to how he describes a way to see yourself differently and how responsibility and opportunity are connected.
This is going to sound weird, but roll with me here. Think of a raisin, some are dry and some are plump. I get that image in my mind because it reminds me of a brain. When the brain is healthy, the right synapses firing, a feeling of well-being seeps into the whole body—that’s the plump raisin. The dry one is your brain on negativity, anxiety and fear. Shriveled, non-pliable, resistant and tough.
Life is a game that begins in your head. Your worldview is shaped by your experiences and the reliving of these experiences in your mind or as they get replayed in patterns in your life only further cement that worldview. Your brain, metaphorically speaking, will become the plump and juicy raisin or the dry and wrinkled one depending on what it practices most. It is this that will then determine how you are currently handling your career or its reinvention.
I’ve never believed more deeply than I have in the last couple of years that the key to success is mental focus and expansion. As more and more people have suffered loss of work or a change in their economic status, the difference between those who recover quickly and those who don’t, gets down to how long the person can stay positive and flexible. Flexible in what they are willing to try, how far they are willing to go to find work and how much they are willing to listen to the wiser part of their mind that is not necessarily the most logical or safe.
Sheer mind power alone doesn’t always change our circumstances exactly as we’d like, but it is a crucial factor in this recovery. I’ve seen what fear and devastation looks and sounds like and I’ve seen what they can do to moving out of a bad state of affairs. They slow down the process and make you appear desperate which repels opportunity and causes your physiology to contract, drying up ideas, motivation and optimism.
What’s possible when your brain is ‘plump’, full of possibility, ideas, hope and gratitude (despite the lack of your desired outcome) is that every encounter, every idea and every opportunity gets looked at in a way where creativity can bloom and find a solution and a match. When we are numbed by our own pain, we can’t often recognize an opportunity unless it’s wrapped in a blue box with a white ribbon and handed to us on a silver platter.
What if you are at the end of your rope with seemingly no prospects in your search or reinvention? Get your endorphins flowing, take a crash course in meditation, breath ten times (deeply) before bed and upon waking—do anything you know will plump your raisin brain. From there, follow EVERY inkling that comes to you no matter how stupid, illogical or scary. This is how you shake the bushes to create opportunity. You will see traction take place. Be tireless and stay PLUMP!
[An Aside: If you are a raisin-lover, are you are a plump or chewy person? Give me plump—raisin bran muffin, raisins in hot oatmeal, great oatmeal raisin cookies—-.]
Based on concepts from Chapter Three of “Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction”, Most Limits Are Self-Imposed
“It’s your responsibility to pursue what matters.” Chris Gardner
Here is some inspiration from Chris Gardner, the entrepreneur and philanthropist whose rise from homelessness was portrayed in the move: The Pursuit of Happyness. Gardner urges us to use this time of economic challenge as an “awakening”, to comprehend the difference between what we do and who we are, and to risk inventing our own opportunity.
“When the Tough Get Going.” by Chris Gardner
“Far and away the best prize that life offers is the chance to work hard at work worth doing.” Theodore Roosevelt
Following up on yesterday’s article about Julia Child, here’s a clip of Meryl as Julia. A great example of what we call in the Now What? Program “following your nose” and discovering your purpose, one clue at a time. Enjoy!
What are you cooking up for your career? You might learn a few lessons from the life of adored chef, Julia Child, whose success grew much bigger than she ever anticipated. Yours could, too.
Talk About Food
I knew I would like Julie and Julia, the movie about blog author Julie Powell and adored chef Julia Child, because: a) it was about food, b) it was a glorious example of following your passion no matter how late you get started, c) it was about food…oh, I mentioned that already, and d) I got to see the movie with my friend since first grade, Luisa, who is herself an amazing cook, though she’d shy away from that title. As we watched Julia on screen, I made mental notes of the ingredients that when combined, resulted in Julia’s tremendous success and what you could call a delectable life.
Sometimes a glimpse is all you have to go on. In her 30’s and looking for what might be “her thing”, Julia Child experimented. Appreciating a finely prepared meal spurred her interest in learning to cook and immersing herself in French culture, which eventually fueled her desire to teach others. While she never could have imagined the role that awaited, Julia opened the door to her future simply by deciding to pursue an interest.
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