NEEDS: They Run The Show If You Let Them
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We all have needs. Usually, something we lacked as a child. Needs are the root of our less-than-lovely side and they are not optional. They’ll get met in ways that serve you or work against you. Will you be aware of them or will you let them run you? They have likely driven your career choices until now.
| What drives you? (Money? Power? Attention?, etc. Look at the underlying need, for example if money drives you, is the underlying need the need for security, power, control, abundance? or other) ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ |
Where are you lacking in your life? (Where are you dissatisfied? What need is not being met? Love, peace, attention, other?) ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ |
| What frustrates you? (Rudeness, not being given credit, not being heard?) What needs to be met to turn that around? ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ |
What do others think? (Ask three people whom you trust what they see as your critical needs. A friend, spouse, mentor, etc…) ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ |
Here is a sampling of needs that might help with this exercise:
TO BE:
Accepted | Included | Appreciated | Valued | Cherished | Celebrated | Listened to | Accomplished | Important Independent | Busy | Understood | Encouraged | Preferred | Industrious | The Best | Seen | Loved | In ChargeTO HAVE:
Certainty | Recognition | Accuracy | Autonomy | Stability | Luxury | Abundance | Power | Peace | Honesty Impact | Influence | Freedom | Flexibility | Pleasure | Dominance | Control | Results | Order
Once you have gathered all this information, narrow your list of needs down to the three that are the most critical for you. The ones that drive you nuts if they are not met! Then write down how you get these needs met. Do you get them met in ways that fuel you or in ways that make things difficult for you?
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Based on an excerpt from Take Yourself to the Top: The Secrets of America’s #1 Career Coach (Warner Books, 1998)
By Laura Berman Fortgang
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