The stories we tell ourselves are powerful. They determine how we show up, what risks we assume, and what actions we take (or avoid) – whether those stories hold truth or not. That’s why rewriting your story is such a central part of the work I do with clients. Especially now, when so many people…
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It’s time to end the empty promises
Have you ever told yourself you’re going to do something (again and again) only not to do it? In other words – making an empty promise. For two years, I struggled to keep my commitment to exercise, but I can finally say I’m doing it. Seven weeks in, it’s a habit. I got tired of…
Are You Addicted to Your Reality?
I recently had a powerful conversation with Shiraz Baboo, author of How to Rewrite Reality, on my Friday Focus livestream. (If you’re not following me there yet, you can catch future episodes on LinkedIn or Instagram. He calls himself a reality interventionist, and after hearing what he shared about being addicted to your reality, I…
Perfectionism: The Smart Person’s Trap
Lately, I’ve been hearing a lot from clients who are wrestling with perfectionism. Some of them don’t even realize it’s at the root of what’s draining them. If you’ve ever felt like you need everything to be flawless to feel okay, welcome to the club. Here’s what I’ve learned over decades of coaching (and living)…
You Can’t Build Success on a House of Cards
Lately, I’ve found that far too many of the people I talk to have been telling me they feel stuck. They’re overwhelmed by the economy, discouraged by the job market, or trying to grow a business without any traction. I have to say, it’s tough to hear. It sounds an awful lot like defeatism, which…
Facts vs. Feelings
We can be our own worst enemy sometimes. The negative self-talk gets brutal some days, doesn’t it? As hurtful as the meanest bully on the planet. “Nobody likes me here. I shouldn’t have even come.” “That was the dumbest idea ever; no wonder it flopped.” “I’ll never hit my revenue goals. I should just quit…