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When the Storm Hits: Your Guide to Weathering What Comes and Emerging Stronger

By Laura Berman Fortgang on February 1, 2026

The meteorologists saw it coming days in advance. The grocery stores emptied of bread and milk. Batteries flew off the shelves. Everyone knew the storm was approaching, yet when it finally arrived, many still found themselves unprepared for its full force.

Life’s storms work the same way. Sometimes we see them gathering on the horizon – a organizational restructuring, a relationship reaching its breaking point, a business model that’s clearly running out of road. Other times, they hit without warning, leaving us scrambling to find our footing while everything we counted on gets rearranged.

The question isn’t whether storms will come. They will.
The question is:
How will you prepare, how will you weather them, and how will you use what they teach you?

Before the Storm: The Art of Strategic Preparation

Here’s what most people get wrong about preparation:
They stockpile supplies, but they forget to strengthen their foundation.

When I work with leaders and entrepreneurs facing major transitions, I ask them a simple question: “What are you anchoring to?” When everything else is moving, you need something solid to hold onto. For some, it’s their core values. For others, it’s their sense of purpose or their commitment to the people they serve.

The coaches I work with who navigate industry changes most successfully aren’t the ones with the biggest emergency funds (though those help). They’re the ones who’ve built what I call “foundational flexibility,” which is a clear sense of who they are and what they stand for, combined with the agility to adapt their methods without compromising their mission.

Practical preparation looks like this:

Know your non-negotiables.
What absolutely must be protected?
What defines you at your core?
When you’re clear on this, you can let go of everything else with much less anxiety.

Build your support system before you need it.
The middle of a crisis is not the time to start looking for allies.
Invest in relationships during the calm, so you have people to call when the winds pick up.

Create options, not just plans.
Plans assume a predictable future.
Options give you choices when the unexpected arrives.
What are three different ways you could respond if X happens?
What resources could you access if Y occurs?

When You’re In It: Weathering the Storm

There’s a moment in every storm when you realize – this is happening.
The preparation phase is over.
Now you’re just trying to stay upright.

This is when your previous work pays off, or when you discover what you missed.

When the Storm Hits: Your Guide to Weathering What Comes and Emerging StrongerThe most important skill for weathering a storm isn’t strength; it’s presence.
The ability to stay aware, stay responsive, and resist the temptation to panic-react your way into worse problems.

I’ve watched brilliant people make terrible decisions in the middle of storms because they were so desperate to make the discomfort stop that they grabbed at the first solution that presented itself.
They pivoted their entire business model after one bad quarter.
They blew up a relationship because they couldn’t tolerate the tension of uncertainty.
They abandoned their vision because it got hard.

Weathering a storm means accepting that some things are out of your control while staying active in the things that aren’t.

You can’t stop the storm, but you can:

Protect your energy.
This is not the time to take on new commitments or push yourself to maintain “business as usual.”
Give yourself permission to focus on essentials.

Stay connected.
Isolation is the enemy of resilience. Reach out. Ask for help. Let people know you’re struggling.
The vulnerability you show now will deepen your relationships later.

Look for the small wins.
You don’t need to solve everything today.
You need to take one right action, then another, then another.
Progress compounds.

After the Storm: Mining the Meaning

Every storm deposits something. Sometimes it’s wreckage that needs clearing. Sometimes it’s nutrients that will feed next season’s growth. Your job is to examine what’s been left behind.

The entrepreneurs I know who’ve built the strongest businesses didn’t do it by avoiding failure. They did it by getting exceptionally good at learning from it. Each setback became data. Each crisis revealed something they didn’t know about themselves, their market, or their model.

The question isn’t “Why did this happen to me?”
The question is “What does this make possible that wasn’t possible before?”

Maybe the storm cleared out deadwood – projects that were draining energy without producing results, relationships that had run their course, assumptions that were holding you back. Maybe it revealed strengths you didn’t know you had. Maybe it showed you who really has your back.

Coming out positive doesn’t mean pretending the storm didn’t hurt.
It means refusing to let the hurt be the only thing that defines what happened.

The storms will come. They always do.

The only real question is: When the next one arrives, who will you be?
Someone who merely survives it, or someone who uses it to become more of who you’re meant to be?

Start preparing now. Not because you’re pessimistic, but because you’re committed to staying in the game no matter what the weather brings.

Filed Under: Lessons Learned, Life Lessons, Now What? Newsletter Articles, Reinventing Yourself, Taking Action Tagged With: Change, Clarity, coaching, Laura Berman Fortgang, life coach, new direction, Now What Coaching, take action, transitionLeave a Comment

Before You Do, Remember Who You’re Becoming

By Laura Berman Fortgang on January 25, 2026

Every January, millions of people launch into action. They join gyms, open blank documents for that novel they’ve been meaning to write, or register their LLC for the side hustle that’s going to change everything.

By February, most have stopped.

The problem isn’t lack of willpower or poor planning. It’s that they’re trying to change their actions without first transforming their identity.

The Identity-Action Gap

Here’s what typically happens: You decide you want to lose 30 pounds, so you buy meal prep containers and download a fitness app. You want to write a novel, so you block out time on your calendar and create the perfect workspace. You’re ready to launch that consulting business, so you design business cards and build a website.

These are all smart actions.
But they’re built on a foundation of sand.

When you take action without first shifting who you believe yourself to be, every choice becomes an internal negotiation. The alarm goes off at 5:30 AM for your workout, and you have to convince yourself – again – that you’re the kind of person who does this. You sit down to write, but that blank page mocks you because you don’t yet believe you’re actually a writer. You need to make sales calls for your new business, but impostor syndrome screams that you’re just pretending to be an entrepreneur.

This exhausting internal debate is why most ambitious goals fail. You’re constantly fighting against your own self-concept.

The Power of Identity-First Change

Consider weight loss. Most people approach it as a behavior problem: “I need to eat less and move more.” But sustainable transformation happens when you shift from “I’m trying to lose weight” to “I’m someone who takes care of my body.”

That subtle shift changes everything. When you’re someone who takes care of your body, choosing the salad isn’t deprivation; it’s consistency with who you are. Missing a workout creates genuine discomfort because it conflicts with your identity, not because you’re failing at a resolution.

The same principle applies to writing your novel. You don’t need to wait until you’re published to be a writer. You become a writer the moment you decide that’s who you are. Real writers write on days they don’t feel inspired. They protect their writing time. They study this craft. Once you embody that identity, sitting down to write becomes natural rather than forced.

And for your side hustle? Stop “trying to start a business” and start being an entrepreneur. Entrepreneurs solve problems. They learn from failure. They show up consistently even when results are slow. When that’s who you are – not what you’re attempting – the difficult actions become expressions of identity rather than items on a to-do list.

Before You Do, Remember Who You're BecomingHow to Shift Your Beingness

This isn’t about positive thinking or affirmations. It’s about genuine identity transformation.

1. Define the identity clearly.
Don’t just say “I want to be healthy.” Get specific: “I’m someone who honors my body’s needs, makes conscious food choices, and moves daily because it feels good.”

2. Find your evidence.
Your brain needs proof. Identify any moment (no matter how small) when you’ve already been this person. That time you took the stairs? That counts. The paragraph you wrote last Tuesday? Evidence. The helpful advice you gave a friend? Entrepreneurial.

3. Make identity-consistent choices.
Ask yourself throughout the day: “What would the person I’m becoming do right now?” Then do that thing, even when it’s small,
especially when it’s small.

4. Speak it into existence.
Change your language. Not “I’m trying to lose weight,” but “I take care of my body.” Not “I want to write a book,” but “I’m writing a book.” Not “I’m thinking about starting a business,” but “I’m an entrepreneur building my business.”

The Truth About Tough Actions

Yes, losing weight requires tough choices. Writing a novel demands discipline and vulnerability. Building a business means facing rejection and uncertainty.

Here’s what makes those tough actions infinitely easier: Alignment.

When your actions flow from a clear sense of who you are, they stop feeling like obligations and start feeling like integrity. You’re not forcing yourself to do hard things; you’re simply being consistent with who you’ve become.

The action is still challenging, but it’s no longer a battle with yourself.

Before you revise your goals or create your action plan, pause.
Get clear on who you’re becoming.
Let that identity settle into your bones.

Then watch how naturally the right actions follow.

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The Power of Pumpkin Spice

By Laura Berman Fortgang on September 17, 2023

Fall is just around the corner again, and you know what that means — it’s pumpkin spice season!

I know … you’re either rolling your eyes, giddy with excitement, or couldn’t care less. But stick with me here, because we should all be paying attention.

Love it or hate it, there’s no denying the POWER of pumpkin spice.

I kid you not — studies have found that Americans are spending over half a BILLION dollars on pumpkin spice stuff every year. Buying up everything from Starbucks lattes to scented trash bags, industry insiders call it the “pumpkin spice economy.”

Sure, it may seem like things have gotten out of hand, and seeing the hype start in mid-August is a pet peeve of mine. Personally, I’m a fan of pumpkin spice, and I’m an even bigger fan of pumpkin spice as a marketing phenomenon.

Marketers have NAILED this. Here’s how —
    1. The Power of Pumpkin Spice by Laura Berman FortgangBuilding anticipation: Those of us who are fans of the rich, fragrant flavor and scent crave our first annual sip or whiff.
    2. Creating emotional connection: It’s become interwoven with the coziness of the season, like a warm sweater, crackling fires, and family holiday gatherings.
    3. Making a limited-time offer: Not being able to order it year-round makes it special. Consumers hurry to buy while they can, as much as they can.
    4. Establishing consistency: We know this thing is coming down the pike every year and have come to rely on it.

How can you translate these lessons into your business or career?

Anticipation: Talk about what you’re brewing up; create intrigue. Developing a new program? Offer hints along the way. Working on an exciting project? Let others know you can’t wait to share. Before long, people will be on the lookout for whatever you have going on and want in on it.

Emotional connection: Make sure people associate your work with something deeper than a commodity. You don’t just offer accounting services, but peace of mind. Not just coaching, but clarity and inspiration.

Limited access: Scarcity encourages people to take action. Offer a limited number of one-on-one coaching opportunities. Focus on projects that make the greatest impact rather than spreading yourself thin.

Consistency: Let people know what to expect from you, so they can look forward to your upcoming podcast episode, newsletter, program launch, or presentation at the next industry conference — and depend on you showing up.

I’d love to know how you’re going to spice things up this fall. Hit reply and share.

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How to Deal with Difficult People

By Laura Berman Fortgang on September 10, 2023

Let’s face it; people can be difficult.

Even if you consider yourself a people person, dealing with various needs, personalities, priorities, and quirks can be challenging.

There’s always going to be conflict.

Whether it’s a tough client, boss, or coworker, your overall success and happiness ultimately depend on how well you’re able to navigate that relationship.

The good news – it’s not as hard as you might think — as long as you keep these three tips in mind:

Tip #1: In any given situation, you have two realities:
1. The facts and 2. The interpretation of the facts.
We are not always going to agree on the interpretation. Here is an example:

How to Deal with Difficult People by Laura Berman Fortgang

Person A: This stinks! I was planning to go to an arts festival; my day is ruined!

Person B: How wonderful! My lawn needed this, and now I can curl up with a good book.

We all view facts differently. When you’re dealing with a difficult person or situation, you have to remember — there’s what happened, and there’s what each person thinks about what happened. Once you’ve considered this, it’s easier to resolve any friction.

Tip #2: Follow Stephen Covey’s advice to begin with the end in mind. (That’s habit #2 in his blockbuster book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.)

People don’t like drama because they’re afraid they’ll get stuck in whatever nastiness ensues.

When you find yourself in conflict, focus on what you want to get out of it. What’s your goal? What do you want to resolve? Keep your eye on the prize, and stay focused on moving forward.

Tip#3: Avoid the word “you” unless it’s used in a positive light.

Saying “you” in the heat of conflict triggers an inflammatory response. People feel blamed and berated, and they don’t like it one bit.

Instead, frame the conversation with the word “I.” I hear you,  understand,  see we have a difference of opinion, and I want you to know I want to resolve this to your satisfaction.

This keeps the other person off the defensive and out of “fight or flight” mode. It allows for a reasonable conversation and coming to a resolution.

These three tips will make a big difference, and the more you use them, the more you’re able to build rapport and trust, even with the most difficult people. The next time a conflict arises, you can build on the successful outcome you created the last time. Before you know it, that person no longer ruffles your feathers because you know how to deal with them.

Remember: The customer isn’t always right. Your boss isn’t always right. And that overbearing coworker isn’t always right.

You don’t have to let difficult people walk all over you. It’s okay to disappoint people, agree to disagree, and move on. You’ll have more respect for yourself, garner more respect, and win in the end.

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The Significance of the WIN

By Laura Berman Fortgang on August 27, 2023

When you’re looking to reinvent your career or start a business, resilience is crucial.

Because sooner or later, the going will get tough. You’ll need to not only stay motivated but also recover quickly and bounce back whenever you encounter difficulties.

One of the best ways to do this is to focus on your wins.

When facing challenge after challenge, it can feel like losing is imminent. Directing your attention toward your triumphs is like a continuous reminder that you’re actually someone who wins — and keeps winning — every day.

So whenever I work with a client, we start our session with a win.

Sometimes it’s something big — secured a dream job interview, landed a new client, booked a speaking gig, nailed a program launch.

But sometimes it’s something seemingly small — updating your resume, sending a newsletter, booking a discovery call, attending a networking event.

But a win is a win!

The Significance of the WIN by Laura Berman FortgangEven if you have to dig for it and rack your brain, always keep in mind that you’re a winner at something this month, this week, this morning… here’s why —

A win is something you WANT.
It’s INTEGRAL to your well-being.
And it NEGATES problems.

W.I.N.

If you have a challenging goal to tackle, wins can be the boost you need to get you there. Celebrating your victories leads to more favorable results.

A win changes your physiology. Focusing on your wins makes you shift from a stress-oriented mindset to one of possibility, wonder, and what’s next.

Your creativity amplifies, your problem-solving improves, and your confidence flourishes. You’re ready to take on the next step knowing there will be a positive outcome — if not exactly what you’re aiming for, something better than where you are. A win is imminent!

I’ll admit, this is easier said than done.

In fact, it’s been a personal challenge for me over the years. I thought my problems made me interesting, and I used them as comic fodder, part of my personality. But the self-deprecating humor wasn’t serving me.

It wasn’t until I learned to focus on what was right in my life that things began to shift. By focusing on what was right, I started doing more of what was right, and my wins beget more wins.

Success breeds success.

Filed Under: Job Change, Lessons Learned, Life Lessons, Now What? Newsletter Articles, Reinventing Yourself, Taking Action Tagged With: career, Career Change, Career coach, Career Coaching, career reinvention, career transition, Career transitions, Change, Clarity, entrepreneurs, Laura Berman Fortgang, life coach, new direction, Now What Coaching, take action, transitionLeave a Comment

4 Ways to Strengthen Your Personal Foundation

By Laura Berman Fortgang on July 30, 2023

After last week’s post, my inbox was flooded with questions. Which is always a nice surprise, honestly. It seems I struck a chord.

Many of you wanted to know more about what it takes to stand strong when something comes along and tries to knock you off your game.

I’m glad you’re curious!

All too often, smart, capable, driven people are letting disappointments and setbacks muck up their day, throw them for a loop, and ruin their plans.

If this is you, I know you’re sick of the disruption.

The client you hoped to land ghosts you.
The recruiter for that dream job sends a rejection letter.
The folks who bought your coaching program’s credit cards are declining.
Your new VP left you off a “big deal” meeting invite.

And you’re SO sick of letting it all shake you up. But you don’t know what to do about it.

4 Ways to Strengthen Your Personal FoundationYou know your personal foundation needs some work, but you don’t know how to go about building a solid one.

I get it; you either have it or you don’t. The good news is, once it’s built, it will stand the test of time. Even when it crumbles a little, you’ll know how to piece it back together and pack it down tight.

Here’s what it’ll take.

1. Stop taking things personally. That might sound easier said than done, but it can be done. Because — A.) Whatever it is, it’s not about you. And B.) You’re not damaged or broken. You’re learning.
2. Spend time with yourself. Ideally, learn how to meditate. At the very least, take three to five minutes every day to clear your mind, pause the ruminating, and think about nothing. Don’t make it hard. Start with searching for a guided meditation on YouTube. Tuning into yourself is a great reminder that your foundation is stronger than you might think; you’ve already overcome so much.
3. Know your triggers. We all have them! We’ve had childhood trauma or negative experiences as an adult, and reminders can pull us into an emotional loop. By identifying those triggers, possibly by working with a therapist, you’ll be able to catch them sooner and avoid the spiral.
4. Become friends with fear. Why? Because it’s never going away, so you may as well embrace it. You can let it take you over like The Blob in the 1950s horror film or brush it aside like a mosquito bite. Fear is simply trying to protect you from something; learn to listen to its underlying message and use it for good.

There you have it. Incorporate these four tips into your life and your personal foundation will be stronger than ever. It’ll take work, but it’s so worth it!

Filed Under: Lessons Learned, Life Lessons, Now What? Newsletter Articles, Reinventing Yourself, Taking Action Tagged With: career path, career transition, Career transitions, Change, Clarity, coaching, entrepreneurs, life coach, new direction, Now What Coaching, take actionLeave a Comment

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