“I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be honorable, to be compassionate. It is, after all, to matter: to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all.” Leo Rosten
What NOT to Do in the Job Search!
Study this list of 7 highly ineffective habits and learn how to productively apply your time in a way that significantly increases your chances of actually landing a job.
Today’s Quote: One Success
“There is only one success- to be able to spend your life in your own way.” Christopher Morley
Surprising Career Path Reaps Big Rewards
At Now What?® we know that background sometimes has very little to do with landing a dream job. Read on to see how a little luck and the guts to go for it lead to an exciting career that has absolutely nothing to do with education, proving once again, “It’s not what you do but who you get to be” that matters most.
“Turning Risks Into Rewards: How Deirdre Bolton Landed Her Dream Job.”
Today’s Quote: Forget the Objections
“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.” Samuel Johnson
Is It OK To Be Content?
by Now What?® Coaching Founder, Laura Berman Fortgang
After speaking to one-thousand people at a conference complete with Q&A and spending a weekend with retreat participants who had life-changing ah-ha’s, one question that stuck with me in the two weeks hence was: “Is it OK to be content?”
Asked of me by someone in my career clarity and life direction workshop, my answer was ‘of course, ’ but the question lingered. It made me consider that the answer is conditional. Being content is a great thing; however, I’ve also observed it can be an avoidance technique. I’ve only met a few people in my lifetime who seemed truly content when they said they were. The rest of the people said they were content as if they were giving up. There’s a difference between not wanting anything because you’re content and not wanting anything because you don’t think you can have it.
Do we have to be pursuing something? Do we have to have goals? Do we have to be improving ourselves in some way all the time? Absolutely not! And I mean that.
At the same time, I see contentment like hunger. You can eat without stuffing yourself and stop at the point where you are just sated. Eventually, you will get hungry again. That’s how I see human growth and potential. There’s always something to explore or want. It’s OK to coast sometimes, it’s OK to have priorities other than your own fulfillment (if you have children or a demanding job (paid or unpaid) you know that for sure), but eventually there will be a longing. It’s the price we pay for being human.
Are YOU content?
Do you feel tremendous gratitude for your life?
Do you feel relative ease with the decisions on your plate now?
Do you feel at peace with yourself despite any shortcomings?
Do you have virtually nothing in your life that disrupts that peace?
Do you feel buoyed and connected to yourself, others and life?
If you answered yes to all of those, you are in the minority and you are to be congratulated. Does that automatically put the rest of us in discontent? Not necessarily. But if you say you’re content, it doesn’t mean you will be without wants. It just means you are OK with or without getting what you desire.
The woman who asked me the question cried a lot over the weekend and blamed me for ‘doing that to [her]’. She said she was content until she sat through the weekend.
Content? Maybe. But more likely previously numb because the truth was too much to bear.
I am sympathetic. Change is frightening and not knowing how to change something is even more isolating and scary.
Mahatma Gandhi said: “Healthy discontent is the prelude to progress.”
It is OK to be content. It’s wonderful. I wish it for us all. But if we’re not, it’s better to be honest about it and realize that it’s not something to be afraid of. “The only way out is through.”*
*Robert Frost