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  • Facing the Grizzly

    by Now What?® Coaching Founder, Laura Berman Fortgang

    When one goes to Denali National Park and Preserve  in Alaska, like I did this month, you are given repeated instructions on how to deal with a Grizzly Bear LBFGrizzly Bear should you encounter one. You don’t run.

    That would trigger the bears’ chase instinct and they will outrun or overpower you.  You are supposed to stay calm, face the bear, wave your arms and talk to it so it realizes you are not prey or a threat.  Should the bear charge you, which it might do, repeatedly, as a bluff, you are to stand your ground and not move.  If by some remote chance the bear does attack you, you are to get into the fetal position, face down, with your hands behind your neck and your backpack in place.  The bear should walk away eventually once they realize you’re not dinner.  HA!  Would you care to try any of it to find out?

    In three visits to Alaska, one for an entire summer, I never had to engage my bear training but it did make me consider, every time I heard the instructions, whether I could keep my cool and do what has proven to work.

    I can’t think of a more intense analogy for facing your fears head on.  Facing a six foot Grizzly and staying steady and focused and not running in the opposite direction or freaking out or requiring a new pair of pants!

    Does that mirror anything in your life?  What are you facing right now? A scary career change?  A relationship that would force you to grow?  A money problem you fear is bigger than you can handle?

    Hold your ground.  Talk it down.

    The week I was in the park, an eighteen-year-old female was innocently walking on a very open, unobstructed grassy hill near a rest stop when a Grizzly appeared seemingly out of nowhere.  She committed the mortal sin and started running.  Guides, bus drivers and bear-educated tourists soon started yelling instructions at her repeating the training she had forgotten in her panic.  She got a hold of herself, stopped and talked calmly to the bear waving her arms.  The bear bluff charged her a couple of times and then went on his way.  Traumatized, but safe, the girl returned to her party and the bus.

    Who can remind you to get with the program?  Who can guide you?  Who can keep you from panicking and making matters worse?

    Today’s message is a just a friendly reminder, like the repeated bear instructions.  Face your fears and get them to walk away from you knowing you are not going to engage them.

    Enjoy the rest of summer and get ready to rock the fall. Let us know how we can help.

     

  • Today’s Quote: Inspire Change

    “Creative thinking inspires ideas. Ideas inspire change.” Barbara Januszkiewicz 

  • Today’s Quote: Setting Goals

     “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” C. S. Lewis

  • Now What Q&A: Dealing with Ambivalence

    Today’s question comes from a member of our community who lives in Westchester, NY and who participated in a recent Community Call.  It’s question mark now what 2 answered by Laura Berman Fortgang.

    Question: I have the right job in terms of my role and the skills I’m using.  I just want to do it for a different organization.  It’s been eight years and I feel like I’ve out-stayed where I am.  I’m chomping at the bit to get out but still have one foot in the world of “This works for me” and the other in “I’ve got to get out of here”.  I think underneath my own ambivalence is fear.  I’ve been working hard to make a change but I have no results.  When I get close to taking bigger steps, I get scared.  And I know the fear is an old one from long ago that’s not even relevant anymore; it doesn’t match my current reality.

    Answer:

    You know yourself well and it’s true that fear often disguises as ambivalence.  In Now What? we talk about old motivations that you might be using to stay safe and it sounds like what you’re describing.  The good news is that you get to choose a new motivation that works for you now.  Ask yourself:  Who am I waiting for permission from?  

    To keep moving yourself forward, you’ll need support.  You need people to cheer you on as you take risks and move in the new direction.  Don’t be afraid to lean on them or to ask for help.  Remember, too, that even if you step out and conclude that “maybe this isn’t for me,” you will still have answered it for yourself.

  • Today’s Quote: Risk the Unusual

    If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” Jim Rohn

  • How to Design a Satisfying Career

    At Now What?, we’re all for the goal stated in today’s article: creating careers with an ongoing sense of purpose, and we agree with the advice given, too. What would change if you viewed your next move as a stepping stone in a grand experiment?

    Build a Career Worth Having.”