Have you ever been sitting in the waiting room for an interview or other important meeting where people start yacking? Some are bragging, some are just answering questions from the braggart, and some are trying to stay out of it but suffering through the noise unable to block it out.
Sound familiar?
Which one are you? Does it matter?
Let’s explore why it does matter. It’s all about energy. When you are nervous about an interview or meeting new people, you need all the energy you have for you. The braggart is sucking energy out of the room by talking loudly, the person answering the questions is getting their energy sucked out of them and even the person who is gritting their teeth through it is losing energy to the scene going on.
Now the braggart thinks they are “all that” but the truth is they are not in the best standing either. They may go into the interview a bit too adrenalized and full of the energy they sucked from everyone else. That’s not always the best impression either.
So what to do?
Conserve Your Energy
No matter which one of the three holding room types you are, managing your energy is an important skill.
Imagine you are a big tank like those that hold water or gas. Every time you get nervous, stressed or someone steals your energy by being negative or taking up all the air in a room, your tank springs a leak. Your job is to keep your tank from leaking.
Take Slow Deep Breaths
You don’t have to close your eyes and go all zen, but take deep, slow breaths that you can really physically feel as your lungs fill up and expand. Let it out slowly. Deep controlled breathing soothes the nerves and brings oxygen to where it’s needed.
Focus on Something
If you don’t want to focus solely on your breath for the duration of your wait, read your notes or even pretend you are reading something. Keep your focus on your internal self not out into the room where you could get sucked into a conversation.
Dissuade Space Hogs
If someone does try to break into your space, you can politely say:
“I hope you’ll excuse me, I’m determined to read this now.”
OR
“I don’t mean to be rude, but I’m better off keeping quiet right now.”
(Try these on planes when you don’t want to engage a chatty seat mate, too!)
Envision Your Results
With eyes closed if you can, take a couple of minutes to envision in your mind’s eye how you want the meeting to go. Imagine the job being offered to you or your proposal being accepted. Imagine friendly faces inside that room you are waiting to enter. If you’re not feeling confident, imagine yourself very confident in stance and attitude.
Consider this your mental preparation.
Yacks are hacks. Hold your tongue as tempting as it is and fill up your tank with the good energy you’ll need to shine.
