I was working with a client recently who had 23 years of experience in the mortgage industry. She didn’t think she could do anything else because her resume said she was a professional lender. This client honestly couldn’t imagine any other possibilities.
I had my work cut out for me, but I knew my methods were proven and that we’d find new paths. Above all, as a coach, you know our job is to stand in the Land of Possibility. We can’t believe the “story” that there are no other options.
That doesn’t mean we are out of touch with reality. I’m always telling my clients I’m not going to lead them off a cliff or ask them to run away with the circus. I am here to help them decide where to invest their time, attention, and energy.
Are they investing in what can’t happen? Or are you investing in what CAN happen? Are you investing in what can’t happen or what can? (for yourself)
Consider this —
People often tell me they can’t land their dream job, change careers, reach for their dream income, or start a business because of their age.
Is there some truth to that? Yeah!
But does it serve you to dwell on it? Does the fact that limits exist mean you should sit at home, doing nothing — investing in the impossibility of your next moves? Of course not.
Limitful thinking won’t get you anywhere.
When you’re a committed pessimist, you are vying for the worst possible outcome — fully vested in proving yourself right. But what if you’re wrong? Why pursue defeat?
This is why it’s important to make a distinction between what’s possible and what’s probable.
Think about it…
When we first created the U.S. Space program, did we think it was probable that we’d make it to the moon on the first shot? Well, it wasn’t likely. But somebody had to think it was possible, or why bother? And look what happened.
Now consider what you’re telling yourself about your career:
”I’m too old.”
“I don’t have the enough experience.”
“Nobody’s gonna hire me.”
“This’ll never work.”
Does investing in this “impossible” thinking serve you? No.
What does serve you is standing in the Land of Possibility.
With my client — the professional mortgage expert I mentioned earlier — we broke down the blocks she was experiencing, and l got her back in touch with all the things she LIKES to do but had stuffed down as impossibilities.
That list came in handy when she found herself facing big industry shifts and a potential layoff two months later.
Rather than staying stuck in the “impossible,” I challenge you to invest your time, attention, and energy into what’s possible too.
I challenge you to do the work and explore the Land of Possibility with clarity and gusto.