If you’re anything like most people I coach, you hate conflict. Especially in the course of a workday! But let’s face it; the workplace is like a playground, where people dress a little better and use a slightly better vocabulary. We’re all still a bunch of kids just trying to get our needs met. But…
The unfortunate cost of covering all your bases
As a coach, I’m in the business of helping people get what they want — out of their career, their business, and their life. Over the years I’ve observed a thing or two about wanting, and the many reasons why people often don’t get what they want. One big reason is that they’re holding tight…
Are you good enough?
If I had a dollar for every time someone told me they didn’t feel good enough, I’d be on the Forbes list right behind Bezos. Okay, I’m exaggerating … but it sure seems like it sometimes. I dream of being a writer, but I’m not good enough. I want to go after a big promotion,…
The Trouble with “Work Hard, Play Hard”
There was a time when I thought business and pleasure didn’t exactly mix. I was all about getting work done, checking off lists, and doing an excellent job. Even in my theater days — where fun was had by all — I tended to stay laser-focused on the job at hand. But over the years,…
Does asking for what you want feel “pushy?”
We all want what we want, but sometimes going after it feels a little icky. If you’ve ever had someone skip the small talk and bark a request at you, you know what I mean. It’s kinda like going for the goods with no foreplay or asking someone to marry you on the first date.…
Yeah, but did you ask?!
Last week, I had the awesome pleasure of collaborating with New York Times bestselling author and star of Iyanla, Fix My Life, Iyanla Vanzant on my weekly Friday Focus broadcast. What a POWERHOUSE she is.* When I announced that we were doing this episode, some of you (and other people I know) were reacting like…