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Got An Identity Crisis? [Video]

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Are you stuck?……

It was nice to hear from so many people who saw the first video that debuted on Monday. I hope I’ve answered your questions here in video TWO which is about the second block to clarity: IDENTITY.


Do you allow who you think you’re supposed to be get in the way of what you really want?

I know I have.

I spent years dragging my feet to make a career change because I felt so many people were invested in me doing what I did before. So many other people’s hopes pinned to me pursuing and achieving my Broadway dreams. It took me longer to leave that chapter because I was attached to the IDENTITY of the artist before I realized I could be an artist in other ways.

If you or someone you know is stuck not knowing what to do next in life or career, this could be part of what’s stopping you.

Watch the second video HERE and join me for some upcoming events that will help you find your way out of the hell of second guessing and into the new future you’re longing to create.

Thank you for taking part in the 10th Anniversary celebration of Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction!

Please comment on the blog to let me know your thoughts.

You are NOT what you do or have always done……

The “I Don’t Know Syndrome” [Video]

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Are you craving a radical change?……

When you feel lost and unsure about everything except your own anxiety, it is hard to articulate anything positive or hopeful for your future. It’s at that point that people tell me:

I don’t know what I want!

I empathize with that feeling and the resonance of truth it has for the person who’s suffering but I also know it’s not true. Not really. The “I don’t know” syndrome is really just a reflection of deep fear that keeps us paralyzed.

This video, the first in a three-part series, will walk you through the ‘first block to clarity’ that we encounter when we work with people on career transition issues.

Watch to learn how to turn your list of complaints and problems into a clear list of what you want! Understand why you can’t name it now, but how you will be able to in just a couple of minutes post-viewing.

Please comment on this blog or send me an email at lbf@nowwhatcoaching.com to let me know your thoughts.

Name it! Get clear!

All best
LAURA SIGN 2014

Your Career: A Love Story

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Is it realistic to believe you can love what you do?lovemyworkmug_s

I know that it is. There’s work destined for each of us the way people say there is a mate for everyone. We just have to find it.

On the other hand, everything we love eventually gets tested and we must decide whether to reinvent it or us.
Like any marriage or long term relationship, a career or job needs to be shaken up every now and then to keep it fresh, alive, fun, and engaging.

Loving your work will morph over time. Whether you’re a corporate employee, business owner, or artist, the following stages seem to apply.

First job – Like new love, the first job is exciting. Most exciting is that there is a paycheck! Your first significant income and everything is new. If it’s not a fit, you’ll find out fast and it’s possible you’ll outgrow it fast whether it was a mistake or not.

Readying to Soar—You’ve gotten promoted a couple of times. If you’re progressing as you like, and the work is still a challenge, work can still be your sweetheart.

Climbing—New challenges keep you growing but with more responsibility comes more headaches. The questioning may have already begun. Is this it? Can I really do this for the rest of my life? Can I find my way back to the love?

Plateau— You may continue to climb or you may have hit the plateau—can’t leave now, you think. You want your full retirement benefit or you are not financially prepared to leave work. Loving may be replaced by settling into living out the commitment

Legacy – At any age, you may have begun to think about what it is you want to leave behind. When you pull your head up from the daily grind and imagine creating something bigger than your immediate needs, the game changes.

Whether what you are creating is publicly acknowledged or silently taking place, the love grows as the impact spreads. Like a long-term couple looking at each other and realizing how much they’ve done, seen, or created together, your work at the legacy stage gives you a platform of appreciation that you can pay forward.

Post-Career Career—And then, there’s this unique opportunity to love your work. Trying something new or rekindling an old flame of work you love can bring an exciting rush.

If money is not the biggest concern, this can be the sweetest of stages as you shed the burden and engage the joy.

When your job becomes a ‘job’, it’s a call to get back to the love and find what will inspire you to re-engage. How will you re-connect? How do you build on the early love and bring it along as you evolve?

Can you and your work grow together at about the same rate in the same direction? That’s what keeps a long term relationship alive. Keeping your work in the ‘I love my job’ sphere means constantly grooming it so it doesn’t die on the vine.

Engage and grow. As we launch the 10th anniversary edition of Now What? 90 Days to A New Life Direction, we offer many ways to support just that. Check out www.nowwhatcoaching.com