Now What?® Coaching
from Laura Berman Fortgang
This mom didn’t set out to create a business. Rather, she just used her natural talents to get through some really tough times. In doing so, people reached out for help, and she discovered a business waiting to take form.
What might emerge for you if you shared your natural gifts in a way that people experience what you have to offer?
Crisis Turns Mom Into Accidental Entrepreneur
I’m on my way home from my second annual meet up with The Super Power Sisterhood, my mastermind group of fabulous women ranging in age from 40’s-70’s.
We’re all pros in the same profession coming together for fun and focused work on each of us.
The lessons learned there, I’m putting forth to you as the holiday season and year-end is upon us. Reflection happens. Some thoughts on wants and goals come forth. ‘Tis the season for renewal.
Why go it alone? The more the merrier.
Form a group to support your career transition (or whatever you are up to):
Who are your ideal members?
What do you want to have in common and what differences do you want?
My group has a common industry but different ages and strengths.
A career transition group would benefit from different industries, for example.
How often will you meet?
We meet once a year in person and several times by phone year round.
What will happen when you are together?
When live, we give each person 90 mins. on the “hot seat” getting everyone’s attention and resources.
What do you require of your group?, are your rules about attendance?
What are your expectations for support and behavior?
Our group established that showing up and attendance is critical to staying in the group. Short of family emergencies or health issues, we expect attendance.
We put forth Commitment, Connection, and Communication as guiding principles for our group
My colleagues and I are coaches so we are good at listening, not talking over each other, and we ask a lot of questions and don’t give flat out advice.
I highly recommend that, at the very least, you avoid telling people what they “should” do. Make suggestions, offer resources and ideas but watch out for the very word “should.” It usually reveals your own agenda more than what’s good for another. And few of us hear “should” and get excited about whatever comes behind it.
There’s no point in forming a group if you don’t get what you want out of it.
What do you want? Ideas? Connections? Guidance? Weekly check-ins? Accountability?
For us, there is renewal, clarity, focus, next steps and the surge of energy that comes from knowing you’re not alone.
Follow these guidelines and get going. The more the merrier!
P. S. The Super Power Sisterhood includes a lot of chocolate. I’m not mandating that for your group, but it couldn’t hurt.
How often do you let what other people think (or what you think they think) stop you from being your most creative, innovative, and authentic YOU? It happens too often for far too many people.
Only when we break beyond that concern can we bring the finest expression of ourselves into the world.
Let’s face it, it’s scary and risky to put yourself out there, and people WILL likely judge you and put you down.
How can you face your fears and do it anyway?
4 Ways Successful People Stop Caring What Other People Think
Big career changes are traditionally served with a side of FEAR. A big, whopping, overflowing dish of terror might be accurate too. Can you do your best thinking and make clear choices while feasting on fear? NO!
In a flight or fight state, pumped up on adrenaline, our actions can be super powered in bursts, but a long inhabiting of the adrenalized state will interfere with memory and learning powers.1
One condition I have for working with a client who is figuring out next career steps is that they cannot be in a rush or panicked about their situation. Years of experience have taught me that although fear is an appropriate response when life hands you a curveball or you’re going through a difficult time, the exploration that will yield the most satisfying choice of work, does not come from extreme emotional conditions.
Effective career and self-exploration just isn’t possible in a flight or fight state.
Sidney worked in the food and beverage industry and was growing increasingly stressed and unhappy with her work. She liked her industry but not the demands of her particular job. She was being proactive by beginning to explore a career change, but her stress was so high that she had no bandwidth to make much progress. As panic grew, the process stopped being effective. It was like asking a person who can’t swim to calm down while she’s drowning.
What do you do if this sounds like you?
Change your order — If instant answers are the only thing that will satisfy your hunger for results, know that they are not likely to be long-lasting or fulfilling. Choose to make a healthy decision instead of jumping into instant satiation.
Dine instead of feast — With the intention of enjoying every course and savoring the experience, you’ll have a very different experience than a feast where the emphasis is on quantity and variety. Take your time. Chew carefully and slowly. If circumstances make it hard to do this, then create two plans: one that will hold you over and one that offers a longer term solution.
Keep temptation at bay — It’s so easy to weaken and let fear tempt you into letting yourself down. Keep fighting to uncover the truest answers that lie deep within you. If logic brings up fear and ceases all action, beware. Pause and decide again if what’s coming from this fearful place is the best choice.
This is a tall order, but it’s do-able. If you need support keeping fear off the menu, let us know. We can help get you ready to make a big change that will be healthy and fulfilling long-term.
1 Matthew Joseph Sharps, Processing Under Pressure: Stress, Memory, and Decision-making in Law