Now What?® Coaching

from Laura Berman Fortgang

Laura Berman Fortgang

MAKE IT STOP! What To Do If You Have That Nagging Feeling

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That nagging feeling? What nagging feeling?
Oh! You mean that one?! The one where I really know I need to make a move or change something, and I just don’t?!

Yeah, that one.

TalktoHand304x300The only way to make it stop is to do something about it.

It’s funny. If you don’t take action when you know you should, life will take care of it for you. You know you hate your job and need to move on but do nothing about it? Don’t act shocked and dismayed when you get let go.

Or perhaps you really can’t stand a client, but endure it to get the paycheck and then something goes horribly wrong and you have to refund all their money? Yeah, you should not have ignored that.

I’m in one of those right now. I knew I had to leave an organization that sends me on the road to do small speaking engagements. I kept telling Kelly, my awesome righthand woman, that I’m leaving the group, but I didn’t pull the plug because I decided to wait until I finished one more commitment and get paid so I can give notice.

Well, wouldn’t you know, they are weeks behind in paying me and it’s the first time EVER I’ve had trouble getting paid by them. It was time to go a year ago and I didn’t listen.

How many times have you done that?

Whether It’s changing jobs, leaving a relationship, or speaking a long-held truth to a friend (or family member), once you know the truth, it’s better to act on it. There really is no better time than the present.

FEEL

DISCERN

ACT
FEEL
You know the feeling. You’ve had it. That little nudge, that nagging boulder, whatever form it comes in is the impetus to gain awareness.
DISCERN
Slow down. Pay attention. What is this feeling?

Am I unhappy? Am I bored? Do I know what I need to ask for? What’s missing? Do I need to take radical action or does a small adjustment need to be made?

ACT
Do it. Don’t linger on it. Ask. Research. Discuss with trusted people. And ACT!

I put off my action because I didn’t want to disappoint the person who kindly brought me in to the organization. I needed to trust that is wasn’t right for me and take the risk of being judged for it. I wish I had not waited. But alas!

If you’re not sure what to do or even if you are perceiving your nudge as a call to change something, join me for our FREE Now What?® Community Call on WED. March 14th, 9pm eastern.

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May the Force be With You!

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What can entrepreneurs learn from Star Wars? Perhaps surprisingly, there are some valuable lessons within this legendary film series.

5 Takeaways for Entrepreneurs From the "Star Wars" FranchiseFor a fun spin on some solid business advice, look no further. And then, remember the wise words of Yoda, “Do. Or do not. There is no try!” Get out there and seize the galaxy!

May the Force Be With You:
5 Takeaways for Entrepreneurs From the “Star Wars” Franchise

Three Things You MUST Do Before the Year is Out

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I have no tax advice for you. Nothing you should do to your lawn before the next season hits. Nor do I have anything to say about your frequent flier miles or doctor visits and insurance deductibles.

Three Things You MUST Do Before the Year is OutI DO however, have three must-do’s that will help you walk into a new year with more energy, peace, and hope.

REPAIR a Relationship

Nobody is perfect. Maybe there is someone you are on the outs with or someone who is holding a grudge against you. There is no better time than the present to address it. Think of the possibilities of a new year without the stress or aggravation of this energy drain.

Perhaps there is such a relationship, but a heart to heart is just not possible. In that case, forgiveness is the only option. Whether you can speak to the person about it or not, work on forgiving what they did to you. If they are mad about something you did, forgive them for withholding their friendship, love, or approval of you.

People behave within the limits of their own growth and experience. Forgive and move on.

Do it for yourself, not for them.

PURGE Unnecessary Things

It would be nice if we had the time to stop everything and de-clutter our homes and offices. But, assuming you don’t have that kind of time, the mandate here is to shed a few BIG physical items that have been in your way for longer than they should be.

Are you walking by a lean-to of unused golf clubs at the garage door? Do you have a closet full of clothes you don’t wear? Is your desk a mess?

Choose one big mess and clear it out.

Why bother? It’s one less thing to trip you up. It’s one more opportunity to see clearly.

PLAN Something Important Way In Advance

Have you ever dreamed of taking a month off? Taking a particular trip? Seeing a particular relative or friend or enjoying a holiday in a particular way but you’ve never gotten around to making it happen?

Well, that stops right now.

I once managed to take the entire month of August off. It took me a year and a half of advanced planning to make it happen. I blocked it out in the calendar, told people who relied on me for work that I’d be unavailable and made the plans to be in Vermont for a month with my family. One of the best things we’ve ever done without a doubt.

What can you do? Stop making excuses. Don’t worry about not having the money or time for whatever it is you’d like to do. Put it in the calendar way in advance and MAKE IT HAPPEN.

These three steps will help you to make the present more pleasant, usher in a new year with some clarity, and have something great to look forward to.

Enjoy the holiday season!