Is It Time for a Reframe?

You’ve probably heard that mindset can make or break you, but it’s really just about how you frame what you’re seeing.

This has been a theme in recent coaching sessions, so I wanted to break it down.

Think of those old black and white prints: Two people can look at the same image and see something completely different (A candlestick or two faces? A rabbit or a duck?).

One of my clients told me she hates selling; it feels manipulative and icky to her. But that’s just one way of seeing it. As a business owner, she needs buyers.

I see selling as a service. If I can help someone, it’s my job to speak up. When they hesitate, I ask questions and dig deeper – not to push, but to support.

Another client felt like a failure because his career hadn’t followed a traditional path. But his perspective was off. He’d launched and succeeded in multiple ventures.

From where I stood, he was already successful. As a coach, I could see that he was just pausing before his next big move.

In both cases, I helped my clients reframe how they saw things, and that shift set them up for their next phase of success.

It’s not Polyanna thinking or toxic positivity. It’s truly looking at it from a different angle.

You have to learn how to be on your own side. If you can’t, find someone who can help. Maybe that’s a coach like me, or maybe it’s a trusted friend. The point is, having a perspective doesn’t mean it’s accurate.

If your thinking leaves you stuck, spiraling, or playing small, it’s probably time to reframe. Sometimes we’re too close to the situation to see clearly. You need someone who can look at the same picture and point out the butterfly you’re convinced is just an apple core.

Reframing your perspective matters, and it can change everything.